Feb 8, 2021
The trend of self-care is EVERYWHERE. I swear every influencer, CEO and entrepreneur is lecturing me on how I MUST make the time for myself. Even my husband asks if I'm working out and getting some solo time. I’m sorry, what? Do y'all not see that I am running a business, with two toddlers and a husband abroad? What time do I have?! And many times the typical self care ideas (like getting my nails done or reading a book) actually stress me out more because I feel like I'm not as productive!
So, what’s my solution? I have started changing the dialogue from Self Care to Self Attention -- I am paying attention to how I am feeling and why! A few months ago I sat myself down and decided to have a brain dump of EVERYTHING taking up space in my head (any short term worries, meals to prep for the kids, business goals, etc.) each and every day. I do this as soon as the kids go to bed and I feel productive and cathartic as I’m not in communication with anyone (tip: put your phone and computer in the other room)!
Consistency can be an issue, so commit to this for just two weeks and give yourself the grace to build up to it! I find night is the best for me and have added it into routine post kids' bedtime. Some people like the mornings and if that works for you, please do it! I don’t find this works well when kids are awake because the goal is to have your mind CLEAR. Maybe try nap time or after drop off. Heck even sitting in your car works if you have that time!
Work up to 5-10 minutes if you can. Start where you are and trust yourself to just sit and get all the mental build up out. Getting more clarity is going to help so much for the next day, and you’ll start to notice when you don’t take the time to do it, you feel off!
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